Raise your hand if you've ever done something embarrassing, and instead of letting it go and moving on, you replayed the situation over and over in your mind, dissecting your every move, until you've blown the original situation to a proportion 10 times it's actual size.
I'm so guilty.
If you're like me, and you have a tendency to beat yourself up over your mis-steps, this is the post for you.
Today, I want to share a recent experience that made me think more critically about how I typically handle embarrassing situations.
I hope it helps you as much as it has helped me.
But first, a quick detour.
Titans Are All Around Us
You may have heard about Tim Ferriss' book Tools of Titans. In this book, he interviews dozens of high-performing people so that we all may learn from them.
There is something to be said for learning from billionaires and cultural icons, but I believe that we interact with 'titans' in our everyday lives.
To me, 'titans' are simply people who have a skill in a particular area that we want to improve in. If we open our eyes, notice these people, and study the way they operate, we can learn from their super-powers and apply them in our lives.
Today, I want to tell you about one of those titans in my life and the super-power I am learning from this person.
Ass in the Face
Recently, I was on a business trip with my 2 business partners to visit a client in California. We flew out, had some great meetings, and on our return flight, the 3 of us wanted to recap and plan for our next steps.
My 2 partners huddled in the aisle next to my seat, and my one business partner (we'll call him 'Jason,' to protect the innocent) leaned over to point at something on my computer screen.
In doing so, he stuck his ass in the face of an unsuspecting passenger. You see, Jason is a tall-ish person, and he didn't realize that by leaning over the way he did, it put him 'cheek-to-cheek' (literally) with the guy sitting across the aisle from me.
Jason had no idea what was happening, so he continued to make his point....and continued to present his hind quarters to the guy in 22D.
After a few minutes of this, 22D tapped Jason on the back, and asked him to kindly remove his ass from his personal / facial space....
And then, something amazing happened:
Jason said, "Oh hey, sorry man," swiveled his butt so that it pointed down the aisle away from the dude, AND DIDN'T GIVE IT ANOTHER THOUGHT.
WTSF Just Happened?!
What in the serious fuck just happened?! I felt like I had just watched him levitate right there in front of my eyes! How in the hell was he not mortified?!
If that had been me, I would have melted on the spot, and sunk into the carpet in a puddle of criticism and self-loathing.
But, Jason did the opposite. It didn't even phase him. To be honest, IT DIDN'T EVEN REGISTER in his mind!
I know what you're thinking, "Oh, April, you don't know what's in his mind. It probably bothered him, but he just did a good job of playing it off."
No! I do know, because months later, I recounted this story for him, and HE DIDN'T EVEN REMEMBER THAT IT HAPPENED!
Stick Your Ass In His Face, And Move On
Jason is the type of person who gives next-to-no fucks about situations that don't really matter, and this is why he is a 'titan' in my book. You likely have a Jason in your life too.
Bottom line, you can learn from these everyday, ordinary people who have skills that you want to acquire.
Think about it:
How would your life be different if you could glide through embarrassing situations without letting them impact you?
That's huge, amirite?!
So, the next time you find yourself in an embarrassing situation, I invite you to ask yourself the following question:
What would Jason do?
The answer: He'd stick his ass in some guy's face and move on without another thought.
Be like Jason.